Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Pusher 101 - Open letter to my mother

You are not the best mother in this world.

But you have brought out the best in me.
  • Your wavering maternal presence unleashed my independence prematurely.
  • Your mediocre culinary skills forced me into the kitchen, at age eight, to learn how to make that eforiro.
  • You drove by me, when I was talking to that boy. Even at age twelve, you trusted me. Maybe you didn't care. I thought you trusted me to not mess up. And I didn't.
  • I wanted to learn how to drive, at age sixteen. You let me learn with the car. The only car we had. The car I was ashamed of. I bashed it. The car looked worse. I learnt my lesson. You smiled.
  • Second year in college and you have not asked to see my grades. You taught me that my grades do you no good. Thus, I have never received a present for acing my classes, not even in elementary school.
  • I can't impress you, you exhaust me. Funny enough, you are my fuel.
Mummy,
  1. I keep praying for your addiction to Sudoku to go away..
  2. I am sorry for hitting you, when I sleep. I have told you times without number, to change the size of the bed. All my life, we've have shared the same room, same bed. Well, different beds but same size.
  3. I hope you learn how to eat sushi, someday.
  4. I don't want us to stop our periodic family gossip.
  5. I want you to stop saying 'Mehn!'. It's my thing.
  6. I look forward to the day, we will share stories about the 'boy department'.

I am not going to praise you but next time, I win 9 awards at the end of the school year, I want you to be proud of me. I doubt if that will ever happen again. You can, at least, come stand by me and not just clap in seat. That, I find it difficult to forgive you for.

I want to be a better mother to my kids. That's a feat.

Happy Birthday Mummy!

25 comments:

ShadeNonconformist said...

This is so thoughtful and well written..I like the car story. It's funny how we can be often ashamed of what our parents have but at the same time be so quick to ask them for it, as a last resort:) sigh...God bless parents.

Happy birthday to your mum too.

NaijaBabe said...

Awww, happy birthday to your mom

Ms. 'dufa said...

This is so heart-felt. Happy birthday to your mum! I hope, true to yourself, you be a better mum to your kids.

Yemi David said...

AWWWWWWW....HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MAMA...Mk sure u send her a copy of this...

Tisha said...

i love my mom
i just don't know why she would never praise me for anything

we have our differences but i am grateful to God i have a mom i can get mad at when i want to.

i also hope i will be a good mom to my kids

histreasure said...

Happy Birthday to ur momma..awww, moms are sweet..
it's always a delight to know we have someone who loves us regardless..some aren't just not that good at showing it.. and i heart you on the praise thing, it's often a reflection of their times..

Moms always rock, nonetheless!!

histreasure said...

Happy Birthday to ur momma..awww, moms are sweet..
it's always a delight to know we have someone who loves us regardless..some aren't just not that good at showing it.. and i heart you on the praise thing, it's often a reflection of their times..

Moms always rock, nonetheless!!

SkinnyLegs said...

Wow...quite telling.
And yeah it would probably make a difference to show this but my experience with similar "situations" tells me that's not happening.

Bubbles said...

I like this
made my heart bleed a little
Happy birthday to your Momma
muah
x

Myne Whitman said...

The love shines through even as your poem remains true. Nobody is perfect. Happy Bday to your mum too. Nice one.

leggy said...

loved it...happy birthday to your mum love.
and as long as she has always been there for u...she is the best in the world.

Rene said...

happy b'day 2 ur mama.

Tay-mee said...

Really well written! Happy birthday to your mummy.

iphyigbogurl said...

many more years to your mum....
xx

Ebony~!* said...

awwww this was soooo swet and cute! aint mothers just wonderful? happy birthday oh mummy! lol

Sugarking said...

I swear, this here made me cry.

Fabulo-la said...

This confused me a lil...
maybe I have to read it again...

muyiwa said...

happy bday to your mum

Fluffycutething said...

Lovely lovely dear!!!!!!!!!

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

Happy belated birthday to you mum.

This is lovely!!!

David.фаворит Бога номер-один said...

happy birthday to your mom...
and have i told you that i like the flow of the thoughts from your mind?
i think i just did...very touching

HYAW said...

This is touching. happy birthday to her.

ELEYETH BLAZE said...

nice ur mom seems funny.

Tigeress said...

happy bday to momsie. she seems cool. :) MEHN!!! lol

Sweetnothin' said...

nicely written...happy birthday to her